What defines the dreamer and what defines the realist? Better question - who defines them. Is it your parents? Your teacher? The friend you compare yourself to? In today's society, the dreamer is someone who has this crazy dream/idea that most people don't ever reach and the realist is the one who goes to college and/or gets a secure career with financial stability and benefits (or at least that's how I define them).
Growing up I was split down the middle. I've always tapped into my creative side with music, dancing or some type of art but I've always kept that realist mentality. I've always had a job since the age of 16, finished high school with good grades, got my Associate's, Bachelor's and then Master's degree. I landed a really good job but I was never passionate about any of it. Music had always been at the back of my mind and the what if's haunted my dreams at night.
Do these 'truths' sound familiar?
- You should get a business degree because it's universal
- You shouldn't do that because it will never make you money
- Become a nurse or doctor because everyone needs healthcare
- There is so much competition out there - that's a silly dream so stop messin around
The similarity is that someone is always telling you what to do. Guess that? They aren't living your life Monday-Friday from 9-5pm. Look, I'm not saying don't go to school because I sure don't regret it. I learned how to write/speak better, picked up some valuable life skills to support myself and make better financial decisions. Maybe going to school is part of your dream! What I am saying is that you shouldn't listen to anyone else about what you should be doing with your life. They don't know what's best for you; you do silly goose! What are you passionate about? If you could take 5 minutes to just close your eyes and think about the 2-3 moments in your life from childhood where you were the absolute happiest, what would you see?
I guess being closer to becoming a mother to my little Gabi baby has got me thinking - what will I tell her? How will I encourage her to follow her dreams? How will I help her fight off the comparisons that surround us everyday? A lot of dreamers don't follow through with their dreams because someone told them they weren't good enough, they stopped trying because they got scared or maybe they couldn't financially support their dream. If you cannot afford to drop everything to support that dream, work on that dream while you're working that 9-5 job until you can get to the point where you can drop it. Sometimes we see that actor or singer who isn't really that good in our opinion. The difference is that they blocked off the noise and kept going. They kept getting back up after every no.
I'm in the midst of all the noise. I've heard that following your dream takes a lot of hard work; they weren't lying! Staying consistent is the toughest part - especially when some people don't believe in your vision or when you just don't feel like doing it because your favorite show is on. So my message to you (and to myself) is to keep going. Keep going because one day you'll look back and see how far you've come and you'll be amazed. Trees don't grow overnight and the fruit is the last to grow. So plant that seed, build strong roots, stand tall and the rest will follow. You can do it.
Ok I'm going to nap now : )